In modern society, fear is something forbidden, a taboo topic. Why? Because most of us have to live with it on a daily basis, and because most of us don’t want to admit that we are scared. Being afraid is seen as a weakness, something you need to get rid of, and yet you are bound to it, as if there was an invisible thread connecting the two of you.
Fear is a part of your daily routine. You wake up with it deep in your heart, and you fall asleep worried. Being afraid means that you feel stuck, that you can’t progress. And yes, fear and worrying does that to you. It robs you of your natural instinct of being happy, replacing it with mere survival.
As soon as fear creeps into your life and into your heart, you basically become best friends with your worst enemy. And, sometimes, that enemy becomes you. You start doubting yourself, and instead of seeing all the opportunities that were in front of you before, all you will see are obstacles that stand in your way.
Doors will start closing, and you will be left outside, looking in, envious of all the other people who manage to live without fear and therefore get everything they ever wanted. You envy those who don’t just stare at the closed doors, but open them and step through. Why can’t you do the same? You wonder.
It’s a vicious circle, one that’s not that easy to get out of. But it’s always so easy for people to say that you need to get rid of your fear and enjoy a fearless life. They will even tell you ‘trusted ways’ to help you stop worrying. It’s easy for others to tell us what to do, especially when they know nothing of what we are going through. They haven’t felt your pain, they haven’t been stuck where you are right now.
Fear can come in many ways and forms, and some people do manage to embrace it and live with it. But what happens when it hinders your day to day life and threatens your relationships? Is it truly that easy to get rid of it?
The short answer is no. But the good news is that with patience and lots of practice, you can get your fearless life back the way it was before you let fear and worrying in. But before you go on and read our three-step guide to help you, you need to ask yourself this: am I ready to get rid of my fear and have my fearless life back? The idea might sound scary, because being afraid might be all you know. So, how do you get started?
Well, it all comes down to your desire to get free. When you got to this point that you are searching for an answer, trust us, you are halfway there. It means that you want things to change, and there is a good chance that you will do everything in your power to make it happen. So, rule number zero before we begin: have a little faith in yourself. You have already taken that first step towards getting rid of your fear, and we all know that’s the hardest step of all.
Now, let’s look at the three steps we suggest you take in order to stop worrying:
- Identify the time when you created the fear. Try to recall an event or a person that sent you on the slippery slope. Having said that, you shouldn’t blame that event or person, that’s not part of the exercise. The idea is to let go of the fear and everything it relates to.
- Identify the way that event or person made you feel. And yes, that includes closing your eyes and actually feeling the fear that enveloped you that time. Ask yourself: does this still feel right? Is this fear really a part of my life? Am I still threatened by it? If the answer is yes, then you need to make sure you get to the root of the problem by getting rid of the source. But if the answer is no, then you can go to the next step.
- Now go back to a time that was before the fear. Can you feel how light that is? Concentrate on that feeling, until it becomes part of you, replacing all the feelings of worry and being afraid. Repeat as many times as you need.
The mind is an interesting thing. It makes you believe that you can achieve things, and guess what? As long as you believe that, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. But as soon as fear creeps in, that prophecy turns upside-down. But the good news is that you can always reprogram your mind using the steps above. It will take time, but trust us, getting rid of your fear and being able to live your fearless life to your full potential is totally worth it.
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