How do you get love?
By giving it away first. And that includes yourself. You need to feel love to feel loved. Contrary to common belief, being in love doesn’t require another person. You can be in love with nature, or with life itself. Once you see the joy that’s present in your day to day life, love will begin to flow – and that works both ways.
What is love?
Love consists of respect and knowing what’s best for the person you love. Love often means sacrifice or compromise, too, but even more importantly, love means pure intention. When you love someone, you want to make sure they get the best of the best. You want to make sure they never suffer and that they are always happy.
Some people are easy to love, while others not so much. Or at least that’s what we are programmed to believe. What if we said there was no such thing? If someone is misunderstood, maybe all it takes is a little more patience for them to unfold and become who they were always meant to be. What if all they needed was to feel loved in order to be easier to love?
Sounds like a catch-22 situation, we know. But it’s the same as with the question of the hen and the egg: which one comes first? Does someone become difficult and that’s why people stop loving them, or do they stop feeling loved and that’s why they become difficult?
Is there such a thing as bad love?
Just like everything else, love needs to be in moderation. Too much of it can lead to narcissism, and the lack can lead to depression. It’s up to us to find a balance between the good and bad side of the energy of love.
Because, that’s all love is: a different energetical frequency. When we are in love, we resonate with that energy, but when we feel down, we sink even lower.
What if love’s not meant for me?
Because love is an infinite type of energy, it is available to anyone and everyone, without limits. If you feel like you don’t deserve it, then you need to dig down to the core of that problem. Why is it that you don’t feel loved and you don’t believe you can find love in this life?
We already mentioned that love doesn’t necessarily need the involvement of another person. You can love nature, the universe, or life itself. Some people are in love with love, and they get inspired and motivated the more love they spread around.
But here’s another secret: you can also be in love with yourself. No, scrap that. You need to be in love with yourself. Because, if you feel like you don’t deserve love, then you probably don’t give yourself the love you need. Again, in moderation, but you need to realize that you are loveable. And what better way to manifest love for yourself than by setting the example and being the first person who falls in love with you?
Sounds good, but how do I do it?
Love has different stages. First, you need to accept that you are an infinite being, who is using a human form, to experience this life in its fullest form. But it doesn’t mean that our love and energy stopped being limitless the moment we stepped into our bodies. On the contrary, we are here to find a balance between the two, using our love to enhance our human experience.
You might say that you love yourself enough, because you ate that chocolate cake you really wanted, or you bought that nice new car that you worked so hard for. But are you looking after your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual self, too?
Self-love not only means eating or doing the right thing, but also adopting a new mindset. It’s so easy to give others a second chance, but we are so strict with ourselves. We eat a cake on a diet and straight away want to quit, because we failed. We do the same with self-love. If it doesn’t happen straight away, we won’t try it ever again.
It’s too bad, because the key is consistency. Some people fall in love in a day, but others have to build the connection up. When you are dating someone, you ask them what they would like to do, what would make them happy, right? Now try asking yourself the same question. Don’t worry if it takes a little long. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Let Your Love Make You Shine
You have flaws, and you will probably keep them, but that’s okay. The idea that you have to be perfect to be loveable is rubbish. Try to fall in love with your imperfections and faults, too. You never know when you will meet someone who loves you for them just the same. Let your love shine through all the obstacles. If you love yourself, the world will love you back, because you will emit a different vibration towards the Universe. Once you fall in love with yourself, you are connecting to the infinite energy of love. And that includes all things. That includes you. You will become love itself., and love will become second nature to you.